Trust and Respect

This blog is one of the most important lessons I have ever had to learn. Trust and Respect two of the most important things a person could have. When someone trusts you it isn’t because you’re cool, it’s because you have been there for the person who trusts you. It’s because you don’t abandon them in their time of need.

Basically for someone to trust you, you’ll have to be an honest to God good friend and give them real reasons to trust you.

Simon Peter in the bible had to earn his trust back from Jesus because he denied him three times. Jesus basically had to see if he could trust him by asking him three times if he loved him.

If you haven’t read the story here are the scripture references to both the denial of Jesus and to Jesus testing Simon Peter.

Mark 14:66-72

John 21:15-19

Trust can be lost if you give them a reason not to trust you; if you constantly lie to your friend eventually they will not know when you are telling the truth and they will end up not believing anything you say.

There are a lot of things that you can do that will cause others to lose their trust in you. But like everything you must earn your trust.

Respect is another thing you must earn; respect is earned especially with your friends.

If you are flake with your friends then they will lose all respect for you because respect is earned by the deeds you do and the way that you are. If you only talk a good talk, and can’t do what you say. Then you are only kidding yourself and you are not real with your friends.

If you correct your friend in front of others, just to make yourself look good then you are only disrespecting them. In turn your friend will no longer respect you.

Another form of respect for those of you who has a boss that is completely horrible or a co-worker that you don’t like; you are not supposed to make fun of them or pick on them. You are supposed to respect them.

1 Thessalonians 5:12-13 We ask you, brothers, to respect those who labor among you and are over you in the Lord and admonish you,  and to esteem them very highly in love because of their work. Be at peace among yourselves. 

Hebrews 13:17 Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.

1 Peter 2:17 Honor everyone. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the emperor. 

The biggest way to gain respect is to show respect, if you cannot respect others then you will never receive respect.

For those of you who do show respect and don’t receive any; then look at other areas of your life to see what you might be doing wrong. If it is not you then you are just being friends with the wrong people.